I still don't know if I believe in the concept of soul mates. I know of people that say they are with their soulmate, but why are there so many other people out there that aren't with theirs?
I don't believe most people marry their soulmates. In the conversations I've had with married men, most of whom have divorced, they say things like "I married her because I thought that was what she wanted", or "She was pregnant and I wanted to do the right thing" or "We were living together. People kept saying that I was using her, so I decided to marry her".
I would not marry a friend if I could not find a soulmate. I hate settling for less than what I really want. I want to marry someone that I am passionate about.
I think adoption is a wonderful idea, married or not. I hate that so many of "our" children get bounced from one foster home to the next and don't really get to experience family. I think it's very unselfish to take someone else's child and raise them as your own. I've given it some thought myself.
You're starting to depress me with this hopeless lovelife I'm not getting any younger stuff. I'm not getting any younger either.
Focus on what you have instead of what you don't. You will be so much happier.
