Hi everyone, and a special hi to Roxydiva--
I graduated from IU in 1997, so I can tell you a little bit about the process of Recruitment in Bloomington....
Roxy won't receive her regrets list until she returns to campus in January (one week before school begins). Then she will look at her regrets list, match it up with her order of preference list, and make her regrets.
Particularly because IU has this protracted Recruitment, the greek system is on one of the Strictest Silences around....you just can't go talking to PNMs or actives...it just isn't done. Infractions are costly to the chapters, so the actives try hard not to initiate conversation with PNMs, and as a PNM, you don't score any points by trying to get an active to speak to you...you just end up putting that active in a tricky/awkward situation, and that usually makes people think you're "desperate" or a "stalker."
The protracted Recruitment (though maddening) was meant to give PNMs a chance to really consider their decision carefully, not in the heat of the moment. It truly is gruelling (I went through it TWICE, so I know whereof I speak), but in the end, I think it is preferable to the wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am process that so many other campuses put their PNMs through. Just my opinion.
Roxydiva, you know I'm pulling for you!!!!
Panhellenically,
imsohappythatiama