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Originally posted by Rudey
She already created a channel for communication with you.
If you were screwing up wouldn't you want someone to tell you?
So tell her but don't push it. Just tell her. If she doesn't listen tell her you don't want to hear it anymore.
We grow and become better through things like that. Otherwise without our friends and family offering help and advice, we might end up losers, alcoholics, and be on meds forever.
Good luck.
-Rudey
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Wow Rudey, I've never seen you so level headed with advice like this before. I'm impressed!!!
At any rate, ilovemyglo, why do you care if this friend of yours wants to get busy with a married man? It's her life... If you don't like hearing about the gorry [sp?] details about her sex life, then you need to tell her to stop telling you even though she may dislike you for some time and won't share much with you afterward.
Your the one who said she was the "skank" and you have made your judgement on the situation. Even if you are correct and what dude is doing is exactly true, you are not the one who is involved with that situation and why should you say anything about it to interfere with your friend's misconception of what she is calling her happiness, right now?
If you are worried about the mental health and safety of your friend, you also need to remember than you all are adults and this "child" has decided to enter a full on adult relationship. If she wants that responsibility, then hey, she needs to go for it and there is nothing you can do about it. Telling her won't make her stop.
But you can say that you do not like the whole concept and do not want to have any parts of it. However, once you put it out there, you are gonna have to take the brunt of anger... And if that's fine with you, then move on. Otherwise, let it go. You cannot live vicariously through a soap opera novella of others... Why? Life's too short...