Yeah, SigmaChiCard, you are right that some nice guys do get sick of it and turn jerk.....and then they end up flying through a number of meaningless flings, often getting fried themselves....(any "PLAYA" who tries to claim he never gets dicked around or dumped and he does all the dicking around and dumping is a total liar!!!!) and eventually go back to their nice guy ways when they find the right girl.
Something else to think about.....guys have the mistaken notion that all girls, especially college-age girls, are looking for a relationship. Believe it or not an increasing number of young women are just out there trying to "get some" or just "have fun/hang out" for awhile without any strings attached. Long gone are the days of the majority of girls going to school to get their "M.R.S." Since they know that they are going to be heading out into the career arena after school and possibly moving somewhere else for the job market, they don't want to get tied down. There's no need. I know a lot of people still get married young, but it is now just as acceptable (and some would have you believe better) to wait until you are like 30 to even hook up, and don't worry about babies because women are having them into their 50s. Women don't NEED a husband anymore, and that has changed EVERYTHING. Guys are so used to being the ones on that side of the coin that they don't know how to handle it when a young lady acts that way. The irony is, a lot of these desirable young women have been conditioned by the "players" to act uninterested, uncommitted, and play games themselves just to keep them around. Players seem to the outsider like they want a submissive female who lets them do whatever they want and falls madly "in love"....but THAT'S when they get dumped. The girls who keep these guys coming back are the ones who know how to play the game themselves. But then, they start to feel like all guys are like that and then when they meet a nice guy, they keep playing the game and seem impossible to pin down. It's a vicious cycle.
Girls (and women) have gotten so sick of being saddled with the new definition of "psycho." It used to be that a psycho was someone, particularly an ex, who couldn't let go, who basically stalked you and did all sorts of crazy things to get you and keep you even when you don't want them. Now, by guys' definition, any girl who wants a relationship is a psycho. It makes it hard. Girls got so confused by the messages they were receiving from these dickhead types that they have altered their behavior and their attitudes, and now it is making life just that much harder to the nice, honest guys.
If you really want something to make you go
try picking up a copy of Cosmo.....I can barely even stand to read it anymore. It would have you believe that all young women are these lioness predator-types who start bed-hopping at about 14 and keep it going (often with more than one guy at a time) until they are 35 or so. They are all ruthless killer career women who act like those broads on "Sex and the City".....sorry to use the old "broad" epithet, but it is the only term that seems to fit for me, I can't stand that show. They always throw in one article on "How to get him to commit" almost as a token, but the rest is all about sex sex sex sex. NOT exactly the unassuming, naive young gals trolling for a hubby that guys used to encounter.