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I have been on both sides of this coin. I went out with the same guy all through high school and into the beginning of college. I wanted out at the end of 12th grade, but he refused to go away. I won't go into all the details, but he was such a psycho that it was just easier for me to let him think he was still around and just cheat on him. Anyway, I wanted rid of him so desperately that when he finally decided to transfer to a school in Colorado, I was in celebration mode. I was free! And then when I finally got him to agree to date other people and he started seeing this little chickiedoo who was the total opposite of me, I admit I had a couple of pangs. But I got over it REAL quick!!!!! A lot of times it is just ego getting in the way. You don't want them, but you don't want them to not want you!!!
On the flip side, my hubby had an ex who was a total skeez. She took advantage of him at every turn, cheated on him repeatedly, and still didn't learn when he took her back. They continued to see each other as "exes" up until he and I started hanging out, at which point he cut her off abruptly. Once she realized that I was in and she was out, suddenly she wanted him more than anything in the world. She followed him around, dropped by to see him all the time, refused to give him his stuff back and refused to take her stuff back (he finally distributed her clothes to anyone who wanted them and threw all her pictures in the trash) and even followed the two of us around at parties, sobbing on her friends' shoulders when he would touch me or kiss me. He got to the point where he just refused to even speak to her because of her silly games, and I was ready to knock her skull in!!! The bottom line is, no matter how attractive he seems to you now, if he is really into this girl, you cannot win. You will only further estrange yourself from him if you mess with his relationship and she may be the "kick a$$ first, ask questions later" type. (Immature, but oftern effective.)
Ex means ex.....it is almost always best to leave it be....
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