[alphachiohmy]

I am not trying to say that girls don't go for a$sholes -- but all of my close friends who are in long term relationships are with "nice guys," not schmos. And when my friends started dating thier sig others - those guys were at first "nice guys" and not schmos.

I haven't seen a a$$hole-guy-and-girl relationship work out much more than a one-night or one-week fling. I have been guilty, while not thinking anything will amount to a relationship, of the above and then whining about it. Who hasn't?

Often times those guys are very attractive, but little else. And I admit attraction is vital for me in a relationship, often times when attraction is coupled with cockiness or a$$holeness I don't forsee a relationship with that type of guy. On the same token, I have dated "nice guys," who are only that nice - without a personality and opinions. Its also hard to find a guy like that, but with who you have no attraction with. I have been in that boat too.

My advice is if your interested in someone, be yourself. Be who you are if you want a relationship with this person. Don't try to be something your not, whether it be an a$$hole or overly nice.