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Originally posted by KDMafia
Also, dont tell someone from another sorority (before recruitment starts especially) that they're the only sorority you're interested in joining. They WILL tell other girls and honestly, you dont know what may happen. Say they warn the other sororities, the rest of that sorority meets you and perhaps you're not a good fit and they cut you, as well as the other ones you never gave a chance.
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KDMafia, that's such excellent advice. I'm sure the sentiment has been repeated over and over on GC, but cannot stress this enough -- especially with the spring recruitments underway. I already have girls coming up to me and saying that they are only interested in AXO and then proceeding to trash the other sororities. PNMs, listen up. I have close friends in EVERY SINGLE sorority. So do most of my sisters. Yes, even the one a lot of the freshmen this year think is "undesirable."
I love hearing that you're interested in AXO. I do not like hearing you trash the organizations that I have best friends in and that it's AXO or nothing -- you end up looking catty and closeminded. I've found that a lot of women coming into college have a notion that there are huge rivalries between sororities. This, at least on the vast majority of campuses, is simply not true. And while if you come up to me and say "I hate XYZ, they're easy" I PERSONALLY may not say anything to Mary XYZ, a lot of my sisters would be on IM instantly saying "Watch out for this one." You never know who you're dealing with. Either way, I don't want a woman in my sorority who starts drama and gossip about other sororities. It shows a lot on your part if I think you would be thrilled and honored to be extended a bid to any of our 8 fine sororities. So be nice.
One last caution (based on a true story)...I had a girl in my dorm come up to one of my sisters BEFORE recruitment to say that she was not interested in Kappa Kappa Gamma b/c they were "all tennis players" and she "knew" that they would not want her because she doesn't participate in athletics. Her statement was entirely false -- these women are not judgmental by any means -- and the impression of this PNM that I walked away with was that she was selecting chapters based on "images" and not her own judgment... and before recruitment even started, no less! The moral of the story is say NOTHING even remotely negative about other sororities. If asked, say something like "Everyone seems really nice, and I love the excitment of recruitment" and leave it at that.
PS: I spoke with this PNM after rush and she ended up loving Kappa. She went to another house, but had preffed Kappa second (a long and agonizing decision, she said). Just goes to show you how important a positive attitude and open mind is in the recruitment process!