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I don't believe in soul mates, but I agree with what AchtungBaby said about "deep connections." To be honest, the best connections do not equal the best relationships I've had. The two best connections I've ever felt with guys were actually two of the worst relationships I've ever had. The best relationships came from people who were practical about things and willing to work at them, not just relying on the connection we felt.
Because of my experience, I don't think there's anything wrong with having deep connections with people other than the person you're with -- but if you believe differently, a relationship with somebody who shares my viewpoint will never work. It will cause way too much stress on both sides.
My best friend is also a guy -- and not just any guy, but my first boyfriend ever, and a guy who happens to have NEVER liked me with any of the boyfriends I've had since. (There have been a few he's liked as people, but not as my boyfriend.) He and I know each other so well that we can essentially pinpoint how the other's relationship will end based on the significant other's personality. I definitely understand the kind of strains this can put on a relationship . . . and he's not even someone I consider myself to have a "deep connection with," he's just someone I get along with pretty well and have a long history with.
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