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I joined through a collegiate chapter (first time), but the initiating chapter was the local alumnae chapter. I thought the comment that was made that someone didn't understand "overly confident" was interesting. Before I attempted to join a sorority, I might have said the same thing, but having pledged a few lines, I have my definition of over confidence. It is confidence that goes beyond confidence in oneself and jumps into arrogance that someone knows they are exactly what someone else is looking for in a member. Or sometimes it's that woman who has all the outward manifestations of high esteem, but it is usually masking insecurity. It is a lack of balance between grace and confidence; and it is oh-so-unattractive in a candidate. A soror and I were having a conversation recently about how many times someone should be able to apply for membership - on the one hand, you want to commend perserverence, but on the other hand I have seen too many times that women get rejected two or three times and finally get in, but they remain salty and bitter about the experience "they didn't have" and they don't do the sisterhood any good. I know sorors that keep their rejection letters - that may not apply to all in the situation, but it happens.
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