[MysticCat]

Sorry, pheemusweetie, I don't know how I missed this post for so long.

Your boyfriend is right. While some chapters will not be as strict about it as others, and given exceptions of necessity (I would never let my wife stay cold while I was wearing a lettered sweatshirt, for example), the general rule is that only brothers wear the letters.

I seem to recall there was some discussion a while back about making jewelry available that could be given to girlfriends/wives/sweethearts in lieu of a lettered lavelier, but I don't know if anything has been done about that.