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Originally posted by frathole
You are 100% correct, being in a fraternity is a lot more than just having letters. Your house says who your friends are, what you do during the course of a week, where you are going to come back to once you leave, what you did when you were a pledge, even to some extent what kind of person you are.
None of that is academic. I see grade requirements and treating rushees like they're applying for a job as something thats detrimental to the fun of the fraternity. If I like to hang out with a kid, and they're well liked by the brothers, it shouldn't matter if they never go to class and just get by as long as they stay in school and are fun to be around.
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That's funny...I don't remember ever being told who my friends were. Had plenty of friends outside of the Greek System as well as in it. What I did during the week was whatever I chose to; I chose to be involved in my chapter and on campus, so I chose to participate in those activities. I am going to come back to the chapter when I leave b/c of the same friendships between me and my brothers that YOU are emphasizing, not because I'm obligated. What kind of person I am is a reflection of the values and ideals I have developed through ALL of my experiences throughout life...not JUST the one's I experienced while in a fraternity. And I did join a house that I felt fit me best...so if that's saying I'm a regular, nice, intelligent, fun, and all around good guy like my brothers, then sure...go ahead and tell me it reflects what kind of person I am. I'll gladly take the compliment.
Academic standards are detrimental to the fun of the fraternity? Don't you mean they are detrimental to the perpetuation of immaturity?
If you go to college and piss on that opportunity (which NOT everyone has a shot at) by not giving a damn about your grades or success then I'm sorry but you are too immature to take on the personal responsibility that all adults have. I'm not sure about you but my fraternity, as I assume most do, recruits young adult men...not little adolescent boys.
I'm sorry but having pride in your academics, (or involvement, leadership) etc. and sharing that pride and focus with your brothers who also wish to do well doesn't diminish the fun we had. You don't have to have a 4.0 or even a 3.0, but you do have to show that you care and that you are trying to make the best of the college opportunity.
It's called BALANCE work hard/play hard. And we did plenty of both.