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Originally posted by KSig RC
Not to be a nit or anything, but I think this is wrong - it literally makes them intolerant:
in·tol·er·ant __ (_P_)__Pronunciation Key__(n-tlr-nt)
adj.
Not tolerant, especially:
a. Unwilling to tolerate differences in opinions, practices, or beliefs, especially religious beliefs.
b. Opposed to the inclusion or participation of those different from oneself, especially those of a different racial, ethnic, or social background.
c. Unable or unwilling to endure or support: intolerant of interruptions; a community intolerant of crime.
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The real issue is that you're applying negative connotation to intolerance - obviously you have your reasons for being intolerant, and until you extend it to areas other than dating etc, I don't see anything wrong with being intolerant.
I do, however, hate semantic stuff like saying "I'm not intolerant, I just won't tolerate any beliefs other than my own in a potential partner" - let's call it like it is, and we'll all be better off for it.
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Hmmm, see I interpret this a little differently than you do. I don't think that choosing not to marry someone of a different religion is the same as not tolerating other religions all together. I think that there is a difference btwn tolerating another religion and 'celebrating' it, which (for me) is the best description of practcing my religion. For instance:
1. Unwilling to tolerate differences in opinions, practices, or beliefs, especially religious beliefs.
- I am more than willing to learn about and discuss other religions. Furthermore, I encourage others to practice any and every religion that they feel is right for them. I don't think that anyone here is suggesting that any other religion is wrong for anyone who believes in it, or that any other religion should cease and desist so that their can become the prominent religion du jour.
2. Opposed to the inclusion or participation of those different from oneself, especially those of a different racial, ethnic, or social background.
- I have participated in several religious ceremonies with friends that are other religions than my own. I encourage anyone who is willing to attend my church, and I would be more than willing to attend their's in turn. Again no one here has said that they are not willing to acknowledge or learn more about other religions. It's just that for some religion in marriage is about more than merely attending the ceremonies.
3. Unable or unwilling to endure or support: intolerant of interruptions; a community intolerant of crime.
- I am quite supportive of those around me who are of other religions. If I'm spending the day w/a friend who is Muslim and they need to take time out to pray, then I encourage them to do so, and I'll help them to find a quite place to make it happen. Again, I've participated in religious ceremonies of other religions, and I've had in-depth discussions (not hostile, just informative) w/friends of other religions, so I'm not seeing where there is a lack of support or endurance.
I don't think that this stance/position speaks to intolerance of other religions. Perhaps, folks are intolerant of that living arrangement or marriage situation, but not of the religions themselves.
It seems that there is just 1 basic fundamental difference of opinion here. For some people practicing religion together (as one) is a part of marriage. For others it is not. I'm not sure why this seems to be so offensive to some. I don't think anyone is saying that it cannot be done. However, for some their expectation/belief/preference is that the husband is the spiritual leader of the household. His beliefs directly coorelate to how he runs the household. A Christian man should be taking his cues on fidelity, child-rearing, finances, the role of a good husband, the role of a good wife and many other issues from the Bible. Now if this is your expectation/belief/preference, then it only make sense that you would find a partner whose beliefs and guides are the same as yours. Otherwise your definition of the role of a good wife (etc.) and his definition may differ causing conflict. If this isn't your believe then great, marry who you will. However if it is, then its only logical that you want someone who is on the same page with you. Again no one is debating how anyone else's marriage works. Folks are just answering the original question, which is "What would YOU do?"
Marie