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[QUOTE]Originally posted by kddani
[B]I'd want my daughter to be happy, no matter what house she did or did not get into. That would matter to me more than anything.
I wouldn't want her to go into a house that she didn't like just b/c she was a legacy. She likely wouldn't be happy, because she didn't like the house.
I wouldn't want her to get strung along by a house and given more than one courtesy invite, when the house really didn't think she was a good fit and then cut her right before prefs.
I wouldn't want her to receive a bid to a house just because she was a legacy if the sisters didn't think she was a good fit outside of the fact that she was a legacy. Who wants to go somewhere where you weren't really wanted?
My daughter's happiness will matter more than whether she joins KD or XYZ or doesn't go greek at all. [QUOTE]
What has been happening to legacies in the big schools here is that, due to the heavy cuts now required, often among the first to go are girls who are legacies to other groups--especially double legacies or more--the sororities are saying, 'Why waste a space on someone who will surely go to her sister's/mother's sorority?" They get cut by their legacy house and most others early in recruitment, leaving them nowhere to go. I can think of at least 8 PNMs to whom that happened this past fall.
I want my daughters to be happy too. That's why I hope that they don't get cut heavily in rush, because that's devastating to most girls around here who rush; it's a huge ego blow. Your standard 18-year-old won't be thinking, "Okay, I got cut by 14 groups out of 16, let's regroup and see who really wants me." She'll probably be so torn up and shocked that she drops out of recruitment, especially if everyone around her has had a positive recruitment.
Last year, 2 PNMs we know chose not to put their legacy status on their applications. I understand why.
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