[honeychile]

I'll probably be flamed for this, but keep in mind: "Politeness is to do and say/The kindest thing in the kindest way."

I say that because of a few scenarios I've seen and are posted above.

-If ANYTHING is mentioned which visibly creeps out the PNM, immediately apologize, and change the topic. Someone says "Khaki", PNM thinks about her brother in Iraq and looks creeped out. That's when you touch her lightly on the upper arm, and say, "I'm sure it hurts, and I understand. That's why philanthropy is SO important to us...." and talk about your philanthropy.

-In fact, any time a PNM looks upset or about to cry, touch her on the upper arm (needless to say, nowhere near her boobs!) and either ask her if she'd like a tissue, or guide her to the Rho Chi or bathroom (whichever is allowed).

-Our chapter collected watches prior to parties, and limited the use of cologne/perfume. You may not realize it, but the combination of several scents can be nasty! Also, no gum.

-Don't fuss with your hair. I'm always guilty of this, even if it's just shaking it out. It comes off as trying to be a commercial or something.

-Fall Rush: make sure that there's sufficient A/C or fans for twice the number of people who are going to be there. Everyone's nervous enough, you shouldn't have to worry about perspiration, too!

-A really good Recruitment Chair (or whatever you call it) will have
either a kit for each sister or one for each group of sisters rushing. Include coffee filters (to blot perspiration without ruining makeup), LOTS of breath mints, tissues, mirrors, lip gloss, combs, and anything your GLO needs for membership collection. We usually did this by group, and alumnae collected the boxes prior to each party.