I know I've posted this somewhere on GC before but...
I have mixed feelings about the legacy deal. On the one hand, a legacy may not be a good fit. I've known some who weren't; I remember that my chapter lived in fear that one particular sister's younger sister would rush.
However, I'm a mom now and that changes things a LOT. None of my daughters have rushed at schools with Pi Phi chapters but if Pi Phi ever does cut one of my younger daughters, I will be devastated. I have seen the devastation of many moms, especially those whose daughters are at UGa, when their chapters cut their daughters. Matter of fact, we know a lot of those moms and we don't know one girl who has gotten into her legacy chapter at Georgia. It's like legacies don't count anymore.
We have had the pain of one daughter not getting into her legacy chapter--her sisters' sorority but on another campus. I anticipated that would happen, though, and prepared her and luckily she was fine with it because she found another home that she loves. But what if she hadn't? And furthermore, we were told later by people we knew in other sororities that she was cut by their sororities solely because she was a double legacy to her sisters' group, so she could have easily been left out in the cold.
I don't think anyone can appreciate the pain of a legacy not making it into her legacy group until their daughter or sister rushes.