[kddani]

Just because a girl is a legacy does NOT mean that she's a good fit for the chapter.

All sororities have special policies regarding legacies. But none of them REQUIRE that they give a legacy a bid.

There are plenty of non-legacies who have fantastic things to offer a sorority. If a legacy can't keep up with and compete with them, then why should a legacy get a bid over a nonlegacy?

There are plenty of legacies out there who don't know the first thing about being in a sorority; not all of them have this "special" connection already with the group through their mom, sister or grandmother. There are ones that do, great, but there are plenty that do not.

Bottom line is that legacies are given special treatment in the form of extra consideration. Usually a courtesy invite back to the first invite round and some groups say if a legacy goes to a pref party they must be on the first bid list. BUT, the legacy has to be just as impressive in their own right.

I'm not sure what other treatment you think a legacy should get.

I'm sure your daughter is wonderful. But the point is, not all legacies are wonderful and not all are a good fit for a particular chapter. Little Debbie Daughter may not be as wonderful and well qualified as her mom thinks and may not make a good XYZ. Debbie may also not want to join her mom's group- maybe she just doesn't get along with them or think they'd be a good fit for her. So mothers/grandmothers/sisters, DON'T PRESSURE YOUR LEGACY INTO JOINING YOUR GROUP. It may not be the best fit for her.