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Originally posted by unspokenone25
Also, my mother did not have me in the church like she should have at a younger age. Church (or what ever religious institution you choose) gives you lessons on how to deal with people and foster relationships. Church was the reason why so many couples back in the day stayed together. Through the teachings of God, they were able to make it work.
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Soror Unspokenone25,
After what I have just been through during the Christmas holidays with my MIL, Church barely played a role in keeping my marriage together... God spiritually does play are role, don't get me wrong, but there is something fundamentally inept in some black churches, most in my area have yet to have a "marriage ministry" other than the minister speaking to a couple before the marriage. That is what happenend with my brother's marriage in 2000, which is now in mediation for divorce right now... Crazy...
I think it takes being Spiritually grounded and always seeking the Lord first before your mate... In fact, if you are Christian--even some Muslims agree with me--that if you place your mate before God, you are idol worshipping--therefore you are sinning... Your mate is not the end all and be all of your life... In fact, you have a life outside of your mate and you need to continue to live it. Otherwise, your own life has little meaning to the main person in the relationship--yourself...
The question is, could you give up your spouse for God if God ask you to do so? And since I only know it from a Christian perspective then this is the only way I can relay what my think is to everyone:
Just like Abraham had to with his promised son Issac?
Just like after Nathan told David about his sin with Bathsheba and their son?
Just like Joseph though he should not marry Mary, mother of Jesus?
Could you leave your spouse if you knew the Spritual Destiny or whatever you wanted to call it asked you to devote yourself to only itself?
Or how strong is your devotion to God?