Before I give my opinion, I'd like to state that Mr. AXiD670 and I will celebrate our fourth wedding anniversary in March.
I never had that "he's the one" feeling either. I kept waiting for it. It was weird 'cause I
thought I had that feeling w/ two of my ex-boyfriends, which of course, wasn't right.
I think that so many women are told from the time they're little girls that, "You'll know when he's the one!" that they spend a majority of their serious relationships wondering why they don't have that feeling yet.
When he asked me to marry him, I was quite shocked. I hadn't really thought about marrying him. When we started dating, he had sort of fallen in my lap. I told him I didn't want anything serious. Buying me a ring is pretty serious!
I said yes to his proposal b/c our relationship was just so
different from all the previous ones. He was a different type of guy. He wasn't anything like I had pictured (of course, I assumed my future husband would be tall, dark and handsome). He treated me differently than any of my other boyfriends. He just "fit" into my life. Oh, and I loved him.
I don't know how else to explain it.
Don't worry about that feeling. Yes, I think some people have it, but I don't think it's as common as people make it out to be.
Who knows, maybe I'll be getting a divorce this time next year?