[irishpipes]

It sounds like you are confused as to what is appropriate to post on this MB. You have already revealed your school, and that is fine, but you might want to stop there. Most PNMs who post choose to give coded names to the GLOs they are rushing so that they don't offend anyone on the MB, or even risk being adversley affected by their comments during recruitment. So, your campus has the following NPCs:
Alpha Phi
Delta Gamma
Delta Zeta
Kappa Alpha Theta
Pi Beta Phi

Most PNMs choose to call them something else, let's just say colors or something. It is perhaps wiser to post that you were uncomfortable at "yellow" and you loved "orange" than to post that you were uncomfortable at Alpha Phi and loved Delta Gamma. Surely you can see why. If you can read this MB, so can Alpha Phis and DGs.

As to the nature of recruitment at your school, just because it isn't in the SEC doesn't necessarily mean it isn't competitive. The Greek Life office at your school may be helpful, but there are usually unwritten rules that are particular to each campus, and the only way to understand those is to tactfully talk with insiders - active members and alumnae of that Greek System. Just be careful how you ask and what you ask. And keep in mind that active members may be restricted in what they can talk about with you.