[ChaosDST]

Originally posted by dst3800
Hey girl! No, this has never happened to me, but one of my very best friends has a dark complexion and people always go up to her and say something like, "You are very pretty for such a dark girl" We just look like, WTF is that supposed to mean? Like, if you're dark skinned, you can't be pretty or something?!?! And whew! When I say she gets HEATED!!! I mean she gets angry! It has happened so often that she is trying to learn how to ignore people like that; and most times she doesn't get as upset anymore, but it is still offensive when people make such idiotic statements. We just look at them like, you are so stupid, and walk away without commenting. Then it's their turn to look confused...

I know exactly what you all are talking about. What does "she has long hair for a dark skinned girl" mean? What is "pretty for a dark skinned girl?" What's even sadder is that people think these statements are to be taken as COMPLIMENTS
We, as a people, still have some ways to go...but, when we hear others make ignorant comments (such as "good hair," etc. ) it is our DUTY to ask people to defend their statements and to challenge eachother. Lawd, don't get me started....