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jojo, when i was at florida state, my house had sleeping porches,aka cold dorms. 2 bigs rooms with lines of bunk beds. on the sleeping porches it was always lights out and quiet. you could literally take a nap anytime you wanted. i had two roommates. we each had a desk, chest of drawers, and huge closets, and two bookcases. if one of us needed to pull an all nighter, we were not disturbing our roommates, because they were all snuggled in on the sleeping porch. some of my sisters would go to bed with their books and notes to study during the day, because as i said before, it was always quiet on the porches. there was enough natural light during the day to study.
the house has since been remodeled and the sleeping porches are no more.

i loved living in the house. i lived in until i graduated. the house is really the pulse of the sorority. there is always someone around to do something with, but when i wanted "me" time, it was not hard to find a quiet place to be alone. i loved having my meals prepared and the dishes washed up by someone else. houses have to be filled to capacity-thats a fact, but ordinarily if there are more members than there are spaces, some members are allowed to live out. sometimes that is determined by :class(ie, the first option to live out will be offered to the seniors, then the juniors, and on down) or by a points system. i would ask each chapter what their policy is and how living out is determined.

i had sisters who studied abroad for a semester and then came back to the house and did not seen to have a problem with the transition.

you can invite your non-greek friends over for dinner as your guest. they would get a good meal, and they could come to understand why you wanted to be greek.most sororities have the occasional event where girls can invite a friend to come with them. as for not speaking to you if you do go greek, if that is the case, are they really your friends? you can also see a movie, go to a club or anything else you did for fun before you joined a sorority. all your time will not be monopolized by the sorority, but it is important to participate in as many of the sorority events as you can, in order to get the most of your membership. most sororities hand out a calendar at the beginning of each semester that shows which nights there are events planned, so you should know WAY in advance when you need to be at a sorority event.

while it would be neat for you and your sister to share sorority sisterhood, you need to find the place that is right for you. right now you think that the chapter of your sisters sorority on your campus is not your cup of tea. going thru recruitment might shed a different light on them.just keep an open mind, and give everyone a chance.

please keep us updated and post a recruitment thread. best wishes that you find your true home!!

all the npc sororities have an agreement that they will not haze, but you will find a rogue chapter every now and then that stretches the rule. if their national officers find out, they are heavily sanctioned or sometimes their charter is revoked and they are closed down. each of the 26 npc sororities national officers take hazing very seriously. if you think you are being hazed, talk to your sister about it or just walk away. you do not have to take it!!