[33girl]

Give it a try, but if you are still having the same doubts after pref don't sign your bid card like CC said. If you do sign a bid card and receive a bid, you are bound to that sorority for a year, even if you depledge, and that's not fair to them if there is someone else who would like to have the spot you are taking up.

As far as what would happen if you DID initiate and then self-terminate, well, that varies from chapter to chapter and college to college. Some chapters will basically want your head on a plate, some will say no biggie. It's one thing if it's something beyond your control (i.e. you lose your financial aid and your parents are both out of work and you barely have $ for school, let alone a sorority). It can be quite another if you say "I just don't like it" and want to quit.

You CAN have friends who are Greek if you aren't, and vice versa. That is if both sides are open-minded. It's not a good thing that the friends you have now are trying to talk you out of rushing. If they were really being friends they would understand that you are interested in this because of your sister and that you want the same kind of great experience she had. I mean - are they going to stop being your friends if you DO rush? If that's the case, they're not really your friends anyway.

I TOTALLY understand what you are talking about, though. If I had gone to a different (bigger) school, I honestly wonder if I would have been in a sorority. It's just usually much more casual at smaller schools.