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It is a hard decision, truly. We can all offer advise, but it's something you have to decide for yourself.
I can offer some advice from my perspective and I'm going to be completely honest.
About housing:
I lived in-house for 2 years, and was supposed to move back for a third - but decided I just couldn't do it during my Senior year. Living in a sorority house is great in some regards, and really difficult in others. It's great to live with your friends and have that support all the time. Also, It's hard to live in an evironment where there are a lot of younger people and a lot of drama, but it isn't impossible. The experience and the patience it teaches you can be worth it. Also, living in an alcohol-free building isn't that bad. I was a little irritated when I turned 21, because it was the first semester my chapter was dry. But I got over it. When you're 21 you can go out, it isn't a big hinderance.
On Non-Greek Friends:
It's possible to have friends who aren't in your chapter or who aren't greek at all, but it takes extra effort. It's easy to get wrapped up in the obligations of your chapter and it's hard to find time to hang w/ non-greek friends. In all honesty, I lost contact with most of the people who I hung out with before I joined. For me it wasn't that they didn't understand me or resented me, it was that I felt more comfortable with my sisters. I kept in contact with those people who really mattered. It possible to stay in contact and remain friends with people who aren't greek, but it takes conscious effort.
On 'Not having any friends':
80% of your college population isn't Greek. I'm sure those students have friends. Being Greek definitely enhances the collegiate experience - but it isn't essential. If you find it isn't what *you* want, you'll be fine.
On Rushing:
Go through Recruitment. It is the best way to make an educated decision on sorority life on your campus. When I went through recruitment I met so many great women and got to see a different side of sorority life. Luckily, I found a chapter that I love and fit well with. You never really know about something until you give it a try. Talk to your sister and see what she has to say. Being a sororit woman, she could give you a lot of great, personal advise.
-Sarah
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