[darling1]

i usually dont respond to convos like these. but im on bedrest...lol.


i appreciate the intelligent dialogue in this thread. it seems that everyone is giving their honest feelings on the subject. i dont really like the idea of 'marrying down'. to me it goes along with the shallow assumption that if a person isnt degreed or comes from a family who is indexed in "our kind of people" then they are not quality or are not a suitable candidate. there is nothing wrong with having standards and preferences. but if you would choose to let go of someone that meets all of your personal requirements for a mate except for having the proper degrees and/or family experience then you are the ultimate fool.

ive have come across plenty of new money negros that wear me out with their bourgie mentality. they dont have a pot to piss in and cant hold an intelligent conversation. they want to know your entire resume and go 10 rounds of negro geography. its ridiculous!

if you take the time to think about what you desire in a mate then you subject yourself to folks who will never meet your standards. if you assume that a formally educated person will provide you with a better life in a marriage than someone who isnt, you are mistaken and set yourself up for a string of shallow and loveless unions.

to me there is no fine line to this. a person who feels they are ready to be in a committed, intimate relationship with someone has to know what they want and the consequences of those choices. i often wonder if men or women who put on certain 'requirements' for a potential mate actually take the time to take personal stock. i have a feeling that many dont.


just my opinion.