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Originally posted by James
As far as places that make you think of an EX . . go there when your EX is not going to be there. Go there several times just for a few minutes at a time. You will rapidly become desensitized.
IF you hide from it you give it more power.
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I agree. After a few months, there should be no reason why you shouldn't be able to go to a place. You can either feel a little uncomfortable for a while, or you can live with an irrational fear for the rest of your life -- which is preferable?
Whenever one of my friends or I go through a particularly painful breakup, we have to go through what we refer to as "detox" -- taking places we associate with him, places we went with him, etc., and gradually bringing new positive memories to the table. If a restaurant reminds you of your ex, plan a girls' night at that same restaurant, dress up, have fun, get drinks -- it will probably feel a little weird for the first few minutes you're there, but by the end of the night you won't even care, and the next time you go you'll have far better memories to associate with it.