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^^^I'm not even married, but co-sign on communication. My parents have been married for over 30 years and communication is what they both maintain keeps it going. In any relationship, you have to be open and clear about your intentions, issues, etc. Games are for children, so when you become grown, stop playing them. Say what needs to be said and if he is not trying to hear it, keep stepping on to the next man who will. Stop trying to 'change' him into Mr. Caring. That's not your job.
Add 'not overanalyzing' to that too. Women ---especially--- get so caught up in trying to figure out 'why this, why that---just why?!' that we miss out on the reality of the situation we're in. Then we do dumb stuff like 'well, you know, he's a man. He's made to act that way, etc' and we don't consider what we may be doing to cause these actions. Or maybe we can't accept that it's not all men, it's this one mutha-effa who won't/can't act right and that we need to just move on.
Bottom line: All men don't cheat; your's did. All men aren't afraid of committment; your's is. All men aren't dogs; your's is. Hell, women are just as, and in many cases more so, doggish than men. It just depends on how the wheel is spun.
We will waste millions of dollars and time into trying to be psychoanalysts and miss out on the learning/loving experience of being in love/having a real. loving relationship. If you keep finding doggish men, chances are, the problem isn't the doggish men, it's you. Do something different.
enigma_AKA
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