[ZetaGirl22]

Ok firstly, I feel that wether or not the father should be involved in the decision depends on the situation. If the couple is in a healthy, committed relationship, then ya, I think the man SHOULD have some sort of opinion on what the decision should be. I know plenty of women who SERIOUSLY regret their abortion whose partners kind of left the decision to them that WISH their partner had talked them out of it.

Second, I think culture just talks about abortion and women who've had abortions in these kind of remote, insular ways, when the fact is, no one will EVER know the expereince or reasons behind a woman's decision unless they have been in that postion themselves. For everyone who thinks and says horrible things about women who have had an abortion, think about this quote (and forgive me for not remembering who said it......I think it is from the Project Rachel website) "A woman does not want an abotion like she wants a cupcake, she wants it like a wild animal stuck in a trap wants to gnaw off its own leg" The abortion decision is not one made so cavalierly as a lot of prolifers like to think, that there ARE a great deal of women who suffer from horrible sadness and grief after coming to this decision, which a lot of prochoicers, the medical establishment, and the psychological community just want to reject.

I guess what I want to say is this, before you judge one way or the other, think about the fact that these are REAL people you are talking about with REAL feelings. By age 45, 43% of American women will have had an abortion........just things to think about, you never know who you might be upsetting with your comments. If anyone feels the need to flame, flame away!!!!