[33girl]

OK, that clears things up. I would wager they've never HAD a ritual advisor before so they have no clue what she does. This is a relatively new position period. All the collegians know is that it's another adult coming in.

What you might want to do is contact some of the other ritual advisors (ask your DF for how to find the contacts) and ask them what they have been doing in the position. That would probably be your best bet. Start with the other RA's from your district if possible.

But right now is not the time to be doing ANYTHING with the girls in the chapter - they have finals and holidays and formals and are basically stress balls waiting to explode.

I know that you want to not "cross over the line" as far as being an advisor and going out with them and such - but if they feel you are putting up too much of a boundary, they won't want to get close to you or trust you. A very wise sister once told me she wished we could get rid of the terms "alumna" and "collegian" and just all be "sisters." I wholeheartedly agree. That doesn't mean you need to go to mixers with them, but to TGIFriday's or something like that is fine. That's when you really get to bond with each other. It can't all be done during prescribed meeting times and scheduled rituals and workshops and such. Anyone who tells you it can, is dead wrong.

Let me know if you have any questions.