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Originally posted by Diva_01
I don't know how to quote, but RowdyRed, you do have a point about affinity/disdain, but my question was not answered. How would you feell if you were in my shoes? My question to you would be...(read last post)? I also do not mean to offend, and it is a good discussion because I get to state my points on one side, and sorors get to state points on the other.
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Hey soror, I'm going to TRY to answer your question...let me know if I'm misunderstanding it please. I think there may be a perception that you are (again) comparing membership in an auxiliary to membership in DST. Among other things, the dynamics of your memberships are different and your level of recognition for being an Iota Sweetheart is also different than that of your being a Delta.
I think you asked why someone would want to join an organization when they're not appreciated. I don't know what you mean by appreciated. But, you can't please everyone. But I certainly would not recommend someone choosing loyalties to an auxiliary over their sorority. Meaning, if your sweetheartdom isn't "appreciated" by your sorors, you don't have to deny your friends (the sweethearts), but you don't have to speak of your sweetheartdom around the sorors. You don't have to badmouth sweethearts or say anything negative...just leave that aspect of yourself outside. That's not to say that you can't defend sweethearts if someone makes negative generalizations about them.
Why become Greek if non-Greeks have disdain for you? Who cares what people think? Of course we all want to uphold our oaths and do what our Founders had intended...but other than that, you can't please everyone in the audience.
I just don't think anyone should shape their opinion of their sorority based on some of its members' opinions on sweetheart organizations. As humans we may judge eachother or shape our opinions based on such things...but as I was telling you a few posts ago, we need to see pass that and at the best interest for our sororities.