[kddani]

Are you technically their advisor? Like did someone say "you are officially the alumna advisor for XY chapter? Or did someone just say, you can help out with this chapter? There's a big difference. If you haven't gotten any information, then you're likely not an advisor. If you just show up at their door and say hey, meet your new advisor, without actually being their advisor, yeah, you're going to have problems.

If you ARE an advisor, I think that before you do too much you need to learn what an advisor does and how exactly chapters work. As a recent AI, you have not had the collegiate experience and you obviously don't know all the policies, etc. You haven't had the experience of being IN a chapter and knowing sort of how personal relations work, etc. That, of course, cannot be learned from a book, but more observation.

Keep in mind that you're not going to be able to do anything with the chapter until January. It's the end of the semester, most GLOs TOTALLY scale back all activities. Their grades are what's important right now, not trying to break in a new advisor.

I think you need to have a talk with the collegiate director (whatever the title is in ASA) before doing much more.

Where are the other alumnae? Isn't there an alumnae BOARD? Have you spoken to them? If not, you certainly should.