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Originally posted by maggieaxid
Has any PNM/Rushee ever tell you that they were going to be part of your organization or another organization and what did you do about it?
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maggie, I've not come across this myself as a sorority member, but I did come across this when I was rushing myself and some rushees would run off at the mouth a bit.
I think sometimes when Rushees say things like this, they are merely ignorant of the bid matching process and voting process and they do not realize that Panhellenic recruitment is about MUTUAL selection. They may be under the misguided notion that you just sign up and "join" a sorority.
They likely do not realize that you must be INVITED TO JOIN!
I remember once when I was a collegian going through rush, a somewhat snooty girl snorted at me and made some comment of:
"Why would someone want to join <insert sorority name perceived to be "unprestigious" here> Sorority? If *I* rushed, I'd join <insert sorority name perceived to be more 'prestigious' here> Sorority"
Well, I responded to her, "You don't JOIN a sorority...you're INVITED to join a sorority".
Suffice it to say, she didn't have a response to that!
I think when rushees make a claim like this of "I'm going to be a ____" as opposed to "I *WANT* to be a ______", it is more a case of they just don't know any better, and to assume that they're a shoo-in; in some ways, I think it is best to take them aside and explain this to them, that rush is about MUTUAL SELECTION, they must choose the sorority and the sorority must CHOOSE THEM!, rather then them ruining their chances everywhere by shooting their mouths off. In all likelihood, they may not realize that they are alienating themselves from all the sorority groups! I don't think that these rushees would necessarily make undesirable members, but I think education about the process of MUTUAL SELECTION is key!