While I don't condone this behavior at all, I don't really think it's fair to assume that they're doing this on purpose. I also start thinking about some chapters across the country that don't even allow alums to help out at rush events.

I also don't think the term "idiot" is appropriate in this case no one really has the right to say they're not worthy of being her sisters. Unless you're from this chapter in question, you don't really know why they're behaving this way. (I know I quoted your post, Phyllis, but that above paragraph wasn't directed to you.)

Maybe the chapter's already set with who's going to do what during Recruitment. Maybe they don't want to have to accomodate an 'outsider' (forgive me for using that term because I can't think of a better one right now) during this hectic time. Maybe they're busy and the fact that they do have an alumna willing to help slipped their minds. Maybe they're afraid that you might not mesh well with them and you might affect their chapter dynamics.

That being said, I'm sorry that you're really feeling shitty right now Caryn. You know that SDT extends well beyond this chapter, so hopefully soon you'll find a bunch of sisters who'll be more accepting.