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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Soror Conskeeted,
I just have a question: Don't you think that 20+ years ago, it was a lot easier for young people to be married than it is today? Forget the fact that being married at "17" was expected and the norm back in 1965, but my question is more related that the "quintescential [sp?] nuclear family of the 1950" made it easier for young people to handle marriage than that of today...
I dunno, I'm just asking--I just saw Spike Lee's "She Hate Me" movie and it raises a lot of questions on the "concept of family"--especially now during this "wonderful holiday season" 
Hayle, marriage is tough for folks who marry older and are older. Financial understandings aside, it is plain tough, generally speaking...
But as far as "happily married Christmas card"--that I have. That part I do enjoy... Folks are still saying to my husband and I that we are newlyweds and it's now been 2.5 years... And we still haven't had the "official honeymoon"!!! Oh well...
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I think it's tougher to be married because the moral fabric of our society has changed drastically from the 50s. Marriage is not valued by many people, single or married. Divorce is seen as an option. 50 years ago, you were talked about and estranged from the social scene if you were a divorcee. There's none of that now. People have nerve and flaunt their infidelities. You hear 'baby mama' more than you hear 'wife.' Marriage was supported by the entire family. Now, you hear parents suggesting that their children live with a person before they commit to marriage. You see grandparents whose grandchildren have 5 different dads and that's ok with them. Because of 'political correctness' people are afraid to say anything offensive. So, we just nod at the couple with 3 kids who have been living together for 5 years and he cheats regularly. We turn our heads when we see a married man at the club dancing witha hoochie mama. No one has stepped up to preserve the integrity of marriage. So, that's why I thihnk it's harder now.
People say to us that we seem like newlyweds too. They are surprised to hear that we've been married and known each other as long as we have. But I hate to admit that it's rare to see someone who's happily married. How awful is that? I'm glad that you're enjoying the perks of married life too Soror Monet. You'll get that honeymoon. But they one you're on now is even better
