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Originally posted by starang21
how so?
especially if you don't hide it.
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Sorry I'm just responding...
Well, cheating (like abuse) is not purely physical - it can be mental - and I suppose it depends on the relationship. If 2 people have made committments to be loyal to each other, yet person "B" (male or female) looks at porn, yes, it's cheating. Why? Because while he or she is looking at the porn, they are definately having some some "not so nice" thoughts about whoever they're looking at. Hence the wanting or lusting after what he or she is seeing and hence the cheating part. Now - if they've committed to each other and he or she still does this openly - it doesn't mean it's not cheating. It just a matter of how much is the other partner willing to tolerate. In Christian terms - the other partner may believe that there is a destructive, demonic "spirit" behind the porn obsession - and may prayerfully stay with the person if they've repented (as in Kirk Franklin's case).
Now if 2 people have an agreement in their relationship where they can view porn, have intercourse with others, etc.... it's not cheating (ETA: in the sense of betrayal).
It ain't right .... but it's not cheating.