I guess I'm in the unpopular minority who would choose to abort.
My mother has worked with special needs adults for over 25 years. My father has worked with mentally ill adults for that same amount of time. My mother's brother, my uncle, is 48 years old but has the mental capacity of an 8 year old. He whispers when he speaks. He has countless doctors because he's got several health problems including a sleeping disorder, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. His routine psychologicals have revealed that he has a touch of obsessive-compulsive disorder and autism. He lives with us now since my grandmother passed away a year ago. My mother wanted to see him with family and not in some group home. All that said, I love my uncle and respect my parents for the type of work that they do. But I see the daily struggles my parents and my uncle faces. And quite honestly, I don't have the patience for it.
When most people are expecting children, they look forward to the different stages of their child growing up and going on to the next level. I'm 8 months pregnant now and can't wait to hold my baby. But I also can't wait for my child to start walking and then for my kid to learn the alphabets and experience summer camp. I can't wait for her to learn to drive. I can't wait for her to go to high school and then off to college and for her to get married. There's a certain quality of life I want my child to have. I don't think I could handle raising an 8 year old for the rest of my life.
And this is something my mother didn't see coming until a couple of years ago when my grandma got sick. No one thought, oh what about so-and-so who needs constant special attention? No one had made provisions for taking in a grown handicapped man who was an 8 year old on the inside.