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When I went through formal recruitment, I was pretty shy. I'm one of those people that can be kind of quiet around people I don't really know but once I feel comfortable I can be really outgoing. To this end, I really appreciated when this rusher from Delta Zeta shared an experience about how she felt when she was rushing. It was comforting to hear "Gosh, I remember how hard it was for me to get to know everyone and how nervous I was. What's it like for you?" I was then able to open up to her a little bit which made me feel instantly at ease without appearing neurotic or frazzled. I thought would look dorky if I appeared nervous, but she was so nonjudgmental. I even got some really good advice on what kind of things to say and do at the other parties to make me feel bettter. While I didn't go DZ, I heard *so* many girls in my group comment about how real and sincere the DZs were. If your rushee is obviously nervous, taking off the "rush face" for a minute and acknowledging her concerns can be super beneficial.

The only catch 22 you can get in with this method is if the PNM is like "Oh yeah XYZ was so crazy when I went to their house, they were scary!!!" so be prepared to steer them away from that type of conversation.