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Originally posted by lovehaiku84
Hmm... interesting conversation.
I think that if you are someone who is going to date several people at the same time there is nothing wrong with that. Keeping your options open is great. However, like someone said it becomes a different story when feelings become involved. And I believe that for men and women the whole issue of feelings is dealt with very differently. I wouldn't say that women just naturally assume that they are the only person that they are dating. This is 2005 and I think we are all old enough to know that exclusivity is not something that you should make assumptions about. I think in some cases they expect to be told and in others find themselves w/ feelings for someone, even though they "know" that things might not be exclusive. For a woman who has feelings for a man, it is not so easy to just be kept in the dark and then be say, "surprised" by the fact that the guy she has been dating is all of a suddent dropping her to be with someone else. I think in the case of a man who has feelings for a woman, the same thing goes.
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LoveHaiku84, I think that as adult women and men, we need to take control of destiny by simply opening our mouths and asking what's going on if our hearts are in it. Women (and men) spend too much time hoping that the other person is going to read our mind and whala! provide us the answer to the question that we have been pondering but never even asked. We can take responsibility for our deep we get into a relationship that might or might not be committed. Now if you the two of you *say* that you're going to commit and it's not genuine, then that's another story....
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