I'm not sure I would consider this description a player . . .
This sounds like social dating to me, which I believe is pretty healthy. It allows a person to get a lot more romantic experience, meet new and interesting people, and build a mental database on what is actually out there and how different people and behaviors compare to each other.
I think in this case, and I don't mean to put words in your mouth, you are using the word player to describe a man that is good with women but sees women more as commodities and as a way of keeping a kind of social score with himself.
This as opposed to someone that might just have really good social skills, be attractive to members of the opposite sex, and sees casual dating as good fun.
Now will he stop being that way? Yes and no.
While he is really into you he should cleave to you exclusively. So as long as you have has interest all is good.
However, I have noticed that the purpose of labeling a relationship as "committed" or "engaged" or married even, is to keep the other partner in the relationship when they are no longer as interested as they used to be.
Otherwise we wouldn't need labels right?
I think in that case the "player" will be more likely to leave you or cheat because . . well they just have that option.
They have that option because they are attractive to memebers of the opposite sex and have dated easily enough thats mostly effortless for them. To them dating isn't a big effort in and of itself.
So to summarize, I believe that you would have no trouble with a player as long he is in-love with you. But a player will be much quicker to leave or stray if he falls out of love . . . .
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Originally posted by lovehaiku84
Always a Player?
This goes for both males and females. Do you guys think that if someone has a history of dating several people at the same time w/o them knowing about each other (re: playing folks), they will ever be able to be in a monogamous and honest relationship? OR do you think that they will always have trouble being with just one person.
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