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Originally posted by KSigkid
I'm not going to judge those who do cheat, because it's a personal choice for everyone. I would not do it though.
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Ay, but there's the rub, C - the real change here is not in the presumption of monogamy, it's actually in eliminating the
promise of monogamy, whether explicit or implicit, in a relationship.
What I mean is that most marriage covenants or ceremonies rely on a promise to, among other things, stay faithful and not 'cheat'. Now what if we change the rules? What if, as long as you still honor, love, and care for your spouse, there's no restriction of extramarital action, as long as it is in the open, healthy (I really mean 'safe'), or whatever your ground rules are?
I would generally agree with you, though, in your post - however, the reasons why I do that are b/c of the presumption of fidelity. I can't really say how I would feel if that were removed, or if I would be able to exist in that environment.
Most of us have a lot harder time separating sexual feelings and emotional involvement than we think, but that doesn't mean some can't do it. Interesting discussion.