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Originally posted by texas*princess

I've found that usually when I ask others for advice, I pretty much know what I am going to do, but I like to poll my friends to see what they think I should do even though I may or may not (usually it's may not! ) actually listen to anyone. I usually wait for the ONE person to say "you should ask him" because that's validating what I wanted to do in the first place and I go ahead and do it.

I don't know what "getting his life together" meant to him, but I would think it has different meanings for different guys. If you were to ask some of our ... gentlemen ( ) on GC what that meant to them, they will likely say different things. SO unless he meant finishing college, getting a job, moving out on his own types of "getting his life together" or you know the specifics, it might mean he wanted some time apart just because.

I'm like that also. I know I want to, but I am afraid that if it does turn out that he isn't ready, that it will hurt me. I think that if he doesn't say anything to me I'm going to wait until the end of Dec when I'm home and say something then.

He's out on his own, and pays his own bills and most of his rent. I know he wanted to focus on that and getting out of school, due to many things he is first finishing up his AS this semster, and then going to work before he goes on for anything more. Thankfully, he can do that with his degree.

Both of us have done the talking, the calling, the admitting of missing each other, etc. which is why it's so hard sometimes because I know he has feelings still for me.