The guy needs to be willing to change too because if he's not, then it's a one-way street and that is no good!
I've found that usually when I ask others for advice, I pretty much know what I am going to do, but I like to poll my friends to see what they think I should do even though I may or may not (usually it's may not!
) actually listen to anyone. I usually wait for the ONE person to say "you should ask him" because that's validating what I wanted to do in the first place and I go ahead and do it.
So if you're weird like me, (some part of me can sense that you probably want to ask him anyway, otherwise you probably wouldn't have asked anyone if you should ask him) and you decide to go ahead and ask him, be prepared for the worst case scenario if he rejects the idea of giving it another try right now. That will hurt. And it might hurt even more because ya'll had a little *ahem* fun time recently.
There is the possiblity that he may say "yes! let's give it another try! i love you and miss you so much and i want this to work out!", but you might never know unless you decide to ask.
Furthermore, I think you should probably wait a little while. While you two have been friends has he actively sought your company or tried to talk to you? If you're the only one doing the "pursuing" that might give you a hint on what he could possibly say.
I don't know what "getting his life together" meant to him, but I would think it has different meanings for different guys. If you were to ask some of our ... gentlemen (
) on GC what that meant to them, they will likely say different things. SO unless he meant finishing college, getting a job, moving out on his own types of "getting his life together" or you know the specifics, it might mean he wanted some time apart just because.