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Originally posted by AKAtude
This is soooo true! One of my cousins and her husband have an 11 year old little girl going on 31. But my cousin doesn't have to put a hand on her. Her voice and look is enough. My sister was like, dang, teach me how you do that!
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I bet your cousin does/used to do a lot of talking with her discipline. Kids HAVE TO understand what the heck is wrong with what they did, or ANY form of discipline will eventually be unsuccessful.
And you know the thing about it is that a lot of people, well - some of my friends and acquaintences, believe that discipline should began after kids start walking... SOOOOOO untrue! Babies and infants are wayyyyy more capable of learning/understanding than most adults give them credit for.
I remember when my son was three months old -- he had a thing (as most babies do) for chewing earrings and necklaces. Of course I did not spank him -- or really get all of that stern with him... But there was a DEFNINITE change in tone when I told him that he should stop what he was doing.
[Certain tones & facial expressions]= [A NO-NO]
I would then give him something else to play with, and let him see a more pleased look and hear a sweeter tone. He didn't fully understand much except for my tone and facial expression, but it payed off. As he got older and more defiant (as children do) I would incoporate corpoal punishment, as needed. But that's rare. I will continue to work it this way, because it has been working so far. I think it really pays off if you discipline and talk to your children from the cradle up.