[Lizanabavi]

Hello Wanabe,

How are you? Fine I hope.

I have read what you wrote in it's entirety and I must say that you have experienced a great deal. What I am about to write I hope that it may help you along the way.

In this world there are a variety of people. People who see things happen. People who want things to happen. And people who make things happen. I can understand how you are feeling because I have felt that way once before in my life. But... you must be cognizant that you CAN NOT change people. Once a person has made up in their mind that they are going to behave in a certain manner, there is absolutely nothing that you can do about it. If a person does not like you, nothing that you ever do will be right. NOTHING. Wanabe, the sooner you figure that out the better off you'll be. This young lady has already decided that she is going to be the way that she is. No amount of coddling on your part is going to change that. Instead of waiting for her to change... you change. Focus on what you can do to make yourself a better person. Being the best that YOU can be, mentally, physically, and emotionally.

When you do that, everything else will fall into place. Now mind you... I am not a member of a sorority and I recognize my position. But if you are going to be concerned about what someone thinks... please let it be someone who is a member of the sorority. I am quite sure that if you have picked up on this young lady's ways -then the members of that chapter have also.

Remember... "You know a virtuous woman by her works".