[honeychile]

In an ideal world, we would all be so much in love with our beloveds that we would move heaven and earth to be with them. But this world is anything but ideal!

I broke my engagement this summer because of this. The former mr. honeychile lives in Chicago (great town, but highest sales tax in the nation, double the cost of living than where I live). He makes considerably less than I do, cannot really support himself, yet expected me to leave my job (throw in all the perks that come with it, and I'd have to make at least $100k a year in Chicago just to equal what I have here!). I have connections at three different colleges which would get him the same job that he has, at the same pay rate (which of course, means his salary would be doubled) - he won't let me.

I could go on and on, but the bottom line is that you can't live on love, and as much as I care(d) (still in that process!) for fmh, his unwillingness to give even a little sealed his fate.

And yes, part of it was that his job keeps him out late some nights, so I'd be in a strange town, ALONE half the time. I'm not about to move and later find out that I gave up everything for a big lot of nothing.