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I was recently in a similar situation (though not really the same)...
I met this guy that I thought was WONDERFUL, and everything I look for in guys I date. He lives about 4 hours away from me in Macon, GA, and I mentioned that I was thinking about taking a job in Atlanta (which was true... I applied and didn't get it). He's a lawyer, and had just started a year-long contract, so he couldn't move. Not that he would have moved for me right after we met. Anyway, since we really didn't have a chance to date because of the distance, things kind of fizzled out. I was kicking myself for a long time, because now that I'm out of college I don't really have a chance to meet guys like him very often.
Anyway, point being, I think that it would be one thing if your friend moved to be closer, assuming that there's a city that she actually would LIKE to live in. But to change your life all around for a guy that you've never had a chance to REALLY date.... I dunno. It doesn't seem such a good idea to me.
My sister and my brother-in-law lived 2 hours away from each other while they were engaged. They knew they were going to get married, and they traded off weekends to visit each other. My sister could have moved pretty easily... she was in a job she hated. But, she didn't. She said that it was really tough at times, but the fact of the matter is they worked it out and got married. He now has taken a job where she is, but even during the first couple of years of their marriage, was traveling a lot for work. I think if it's meant to be, they'll work it out, but you can't (especially as a woman the way things are now) change your life around for a GUY. What happens if they didn't work out? She'd be stuck living in a city she hated.
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