yeah, i agree with billy. this topic probably belongs in chit chat, but i'm going to give you my two cents worth anyway - wink wink.
girlfriend...i've been there. similar situation in that i knew the password to my boyfriend's email - heck, i gave him one of my aol accounts anyway. i started getting suspicious because...well, you can just tell when things aren't going the way they normally do. women's intuition perhaps.
well i found out he'd been emailing and conversing over the phone with some girl in a neighboring state. he had a picture of her in his email box and i couldn't believe what i was reading. he made plans to go see her and everything. it totally ruined my trust and when i was online under his screenname she started talking to me. i explained i was his girlfriend and she laughed - if that's possible via computer- saying that my ex told her that a friend of his might play a joke on her saying he had a girlfriend. that's when i found out the truth and i confronted him. he claimed he never met her but realized that his behavior hurt me and our relationship. still, we continued to see each other. then around our 1 year anniversary i got suspicious again...finding receipts for flowers that weren't given to me and a movie ticket stub that was to a movie he didn't take me to. when i confronted him he told me he took a coworker to a movie to cheer her up. having been hurt the first time, i didn't believe him. and to this day i'm not sure what, if anything, happened with him and the second girl, but it ruined our relationship and for seven more months it declined.
moral is - sorry so long - get out and stay out of a relationship with someone who lies and cheats. relationships should be based off of trust and you'll only be fooling yourself if you believe that he won't do it again. and as i pointed out, the second time it happened to me it didn't matter...i still didn't trust him. and what kind of relationship is that.
well, good luck and i hope this all helps you remember that you're not the only one this happens to.
as my sorority sisters have recently told me, there's someone special out there just waiting for you. so keep that in mind and smile.
sisterly love,
hootie
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