[33girl]

If she's upset, then at this point, I think you should definitely leave.

You're not leaving to go to a competitor and blab all their secrets. You're not leaving them in the lurch - you are giving her advance notice (as opposed to my ex-coworker who left a message on her boss's machine saying she quit). It is nothing personal, and she's making it personal.

You're not 18 with just you to think about - you have a family to take care of - and you have to do the things that will benefit them as well as you. If your current boss can't understand that, she's way too sensitive.