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Originally posted by Firehouse
My guess is - and it's only a guess - that most alumni and most undergrads in fraternity and sorority chapters feel differently about this than the majority of the people posting on this thread. I think the majority on this thread is composed of sincere, decent people. I see this one issue differently, and I disagree with the majority here regarding membership. The attitude expressed here of complete acceptance and even open recruitment is very recent and is not shared - I believe - by most alumni and most undergraduates. In today's culture this issue has a legal aspect, a moral aspect and an emotional aspect. All fraternities and sororities discriminate on some basis when we select our members. Some of those decisions are based on behavior, and behavior is the issue at hand. Not race, not gender.
I'm not trying to start a dust-up, and I may not post again on this thread. Just please understand that while you and I can agree on matters of compassion and Human kindness and decency, we may honestly disagree on this. Where you might consider acceptance of a certain behavior to be a moral imperative, I might consider the behavior itself to be immoral.

Behavior. If they're not coming on to YOU or any other brothers, or doing it because of a huge fantasy they have (that could go for straight or gay), then what's the problem? If their behavior is normal just like any other brother's, then I don't see a difference.

One of my close sisters came out to me a few weeks ago. While I was surprised, it was just like "ok you're the same person, just you're dating a girl now ok whatever". I also found out that a few other collegiate friends, sisters and non-sisters, who are bi-sexual. They never hit on anyone else and they respect other people's opinions.