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I don't think you HAVE to be single to learn/mature, but I think it happens much faster that way (at least in terms of the learning processes in question), and much more often that way than not. When you're single you tend to be much more self-focused than when you're in a relationship. (Actually, I do think relationships lead to growth processes as well, but they are different ones . . . )
If you're going from one relationship straight into another, there's far less time to reflect on "what you're doing wrong" before you start getting involved with someone else.
Of course, that doesn't mean that single people necessarily put too much thought into what went wrong, either, so being single doesn't guarantee that someone will become grow up.
This would be longer but I'm off to work.
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