That's not always true. I was a cocktail waitress for almost 3 years and various bars/lounges/clubs and I never had to wear anything I didn't feel comfortable in. A lot of places don't require their female help to wear skimpy clothes anymore -- I guess a lot of them were being threatened with suits. Even with strip clubs -- many strip clubs often employ more men as cocktail servers.

As far as being treated like a piece of meat, well, that's inevitable. It's just a matter of doing your job...take their order, bring their drinks, take their cash (if they don't start tabs), thank them, and if they talk shit, let em. Just smile and walk away.

Are you an experienced waitress? How busy does this club get? I ask because if it's a busy night, you'll be tapped left and right for service, and it can be difficult to carry a full tray of bottles and drinks, take their money/give their change, and clear off any empties.

The tips are great, but sometimes you'll have those shitty nights where the tips just aren't worth it.

And that's why I retired.